I recently realized how much girls lie because I've been lying to them. As my game improved, I had multiple girls in rotation. One wanted Saturday night so I'd lie: "I promised Chris I'd hang with him. Maybe later?" She wouldn't hear from me again. Once I made up a story about a hot dog causing vomiting with full details. I'm a big fan of illness excuses for cancellations. Another go-to: "I'm so tired, staying in tonight." Add wine and it becomes marriage material: Want to come over for a drink?

I'm lying to multiple girls while hooking up and life feels good, then one texts, "My stomach's not feeling well, staying in tonight." That's my own line. I call another on Thursday for round three and she says, "Tired from school, staying in." Next week with tentative Saturday plans she texts, "Lame birthday party, maybe later?" These weren't the first times I'd heard these excuses but the first time I saw them clearly as lies. Every girl I didn't sleep with lied to me.

No matter how good you make her laugh or how often she says she misses you, she will lie because you're not her best option every night of every week. She's lying unless one of two things comes out of her mouth: "I don't feel like seeing you tonight," or, "I found something better than you tonight." That's the truth. That's why we flake on girls and they flake on us. This applies whether you're looking for marriage or casual connections.

Since lying is disrespect, do nothing. Don't reply, don't indulge the excuse. Don't say "Okay, maybe later." She's disrespected you and must make effort to regain your favor. If she likes you, she will contact you again soon. If not, it was basically done anyway. Chasing after an obvious lie only weakens your position and makes you look desperate. The mindset of saving it comes from scarcity, where you're hooked and scared to lose it. By not caring, you tell yourself she lost out.